Tuesday, February 01, 2005
Quarter Life Crises?
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They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
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They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
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I guess everyone (I mean everyone who's been quarter-lifed) relates to what you say. For a moment, it seemed like you're reading minds. It's like one of those conversations we've had in the past.
Great quote! I can totally relate. Nice blog Aakash. Keep it up and I'll check back often to see what's up.
Monica
www.monicastravels.com
Monica
www.monicastravels.com
Quarter life, catch 22 if I may call it. Sounds like what we were discussing last week. How, when, where, shit loads of answers to find. Mr. Sethi very interesting writing. It should be good fun looking back after sometime.
Good to find your blog after so long...
This actually annoys me because it still focuses so much on what you are DOING or trying to DO or BECOME what about getting deeper... I think the real question we all face and I plan to face it now and not later:
"Who are you being?!"
This actually annoys me because it still focuses so much on what you are DOING or trying to DO or BECOME what about getting deeper... I think the real question we all face and I plan to face it now and not later:
"Who are you being?!"
hey...
totally identified with your thoughts. it seemed like you were reading my mind. u have such a good flow in ur words and thoughts.
keep it up. enjoyed reading ur posts..
totally identified with your thoughts. it seemed like you were reading my mind. u have such a good flow in ur words and thoughts.
keep it up. enjoyed reading ur posts..
true true true - also that one wonders whether your self and the life you are leading have anything in common - you are you and have only one life to prove it and suddenly life takes over and you wonder whether what you are leading and what you are match at all anymore totally in the qlc, and totally at loss - thanks for showing i'm just normal (or really, i wish i didnt know that, normal sucks!!!)
Dear Sir or Madam:
My editor showed me that my Quarter Life Crisis piece is on the Internet without crediting me. This comes after the piece being forwarded to a friend as an email forward without my name. Heartbreaking for a writer.
I wrote this piece in an email in April 2001 for my friends and pitched it to Play Magazine in Washington, DC later that year. The piece is written about many of those friends and what I was going through months after college. Unfortunately, this piece has been posted on the Internet without crediting me, which is disheartening.
I have the original email that was sent as well as many contacts who originally received this piece (for whom it was written).
I am a writer for For Me Magazine, Women's Day, The Phat Phree.com and have a book coming out through McGraw-Hill in February 2007.
I do not mind the piece being posted, but please credit me as it is my work and brings me great heartache to see it posted without credit.
All of the very best to you,
Brenda Della Casa
lolaspaghetti@gmail.com
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My editor showed me that my Quarter Life Crisis piece is on the Internet without crediting me. This comes after the piece being forwarded to a friend as an email forward without my name. Heartbreaking for a writer.
I wrote this piece in an email in April 2001 for my friends and pitched it to Play Magazine in Washington, DC later that year. The piece is written about many of those friends and what I was going through months after college. Unfortunately, this piece has been posted on the Internet without crediting me, which is disheartening.
I have the original email that was sent as well as many contacts who originally received this piece (for whom it was written).
I am a writer for For Me Magazine, Women's Day, The Phat Phree.com and have a book coming out through McGraw-Hill in February 2007.
I do not mind the piece being posted, but please credit me as it is my work and brings me great heartache to see it posted without credit.
All of the very best to you,
Brenda Della Casa
lolaspaghetti@gmail.com
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